13 year old daughter is dating a creep...help!?

My 13 year old daughter has a boy in her class that asked her "out" whatever that means these days...well, hubby and I aren't happy about it. She's a very "young" 13 and this kid seems to be a little more advanced than she is. He had a MySpace site up that had a quiz about sex and what was expected..i.e - bj's, hand j's, going all the way. It also referenced, drugs, drinking and guns. Needless to say, I was FURIOUS!! My husband had a nice chat with this kid and he removed it right away, but I still think he's a

punk and I want him out of her life. She's a good kid and want her to stay that way.

How can I break them up without her hating me???

Thanks for reading!!

Stephany

13 year old daughter is dating a creep...help!?

Welll....heres my thoughts. First off, alot of young boys his age have these sites talking about sex, drugs, and guns. Hardly any of them at all are serious. Believe me. Hell, I made jokes about guns and sex when I was 14, and I hadnt even ever held a gun in my life at that point. So, dont take that too seriously. Also, although you might not think so, but your daughter probably makes jokes and talks about sex with her friends. Its no huge deal at that age. The key is to explain how things work and what to do and what not to do. Like, wait till shes older and be safe etc etc etc.

Look, the worst thing you can do as a parent and as a human being is judge people based upon things like myspace quizzes. Dont automatically hate him and think hes a "punk" (whatever you mean by that). First off, youll get a better relationship with your daughter if you respect her enough to be considerate to her little boyfriends. And not to mention that at 13, relationships last what, a month? Two? Just let it be. It'll die and she'll be fine. Besides, it really is her life, and if she makes little mistakes, she'll learn from them. You cant keep her in the innocence bubble forever.

Bottom line is, you cant break them up without her hating you. And should you do it anyway, she might just lose respect for you and just do things behind your back from that point on. Let me tell you, my dad kicked me out of his house when I was 17 for smoking pot (as if it was some sort of mega-sin, but thats another story) and I went to live with my mother. My sister, continued to live with him, and having seen what happened with me when I was open with my dad about smoking and whatnot, she did it anyways, just went and did it behind his back. To this day he has no idea. He remains convinced that she was a perfect little girl during her school days. Always be open, encourage your kids to talk to you about EVERYTHING! Its the best thing you can do really. Never flip out, always listen and be considerate. Theyll respect you more I guarantee it. Hope that helps you. Good luck.

Peace

13 year old daughter is dating a creep...help!?

I disagree, boys are serious about sex. This is NO good! Report It

13 year old daughter is dating a creep...help!?

whats his name and address

13 year old daughter is dating a creep...help!?

Scary!! Explain to her what you saw and that he is bad news!!!! 13 yr olds are stubborn though, so GOOD LUCK :)

13 year old daughter is dating a creep...help!?

Being a good parent as you know means sometimes your children are mad at you for the decisions you make. If you really think he is a bad apple the answer is NO. Go with your gut and remember that sometimes you have to protect her best interest no matter how angry she gets at you. Best of luck!

13 year old daughter is dating a creep...help!?

Start taking her out and spending A LOT of time with her. Try to get her into a hobby.

three good things will happen...

1. You'll be having fun and spending quality time with your kid.

2. Somewhere you take her or somethig you do with her may spark an intrest and she'll a new hobby to pre-occupy her time with. Just be sure to support it with a vengence!

3. She'll be so busy, she won't have time for this boy.

Just make sure it fun stuff. Nothing 'lame' that a teen-age girl might get bored with.

13 year old daughter is dating a creep...help!?

shes too young to be dating anyway take control you are the parents arent you?

13 year old daughter is dating a creep...help!?

A logical thing would be to sit down and talk to her about how you feel about her and this boy getting into a relationship. Then if that does not work out. You can always scare him away without your daughter having to know anything about why he broke it off.

13 year old daughter is dating a creep...help!?

Keep your friends close...keep your enemies closer....make sure when this kid is around you're around...take them on fun family outings...the more embarrassing the better...if your kid hates for awhile, well you are the parent and sometimes they hate you...that's how it goes with teenagers.

13 year old daughter is dating a creep...help!?

Who is the mother and who is the child? What you are doing is for her own good. She's too young to be dating anyway. She's like in what, 7th or 8th grade. She needs to get her grades up and stuff like that before she EVEN thinks about having boyfriends. I can't believe that she's having webpages about blowjobs, handjobs and things of that nature. You need to take a belt to her behind.

13 year old daughter is dating a creep...help!?

Tell them they need you to chaperone every date. Who's the boss, you or the daughter? If you tell her that, he will get lost quickly.

13 year old daughter is dating a creep...help!?

Who lets a 13 year old date? Don't forbid her from socializing or speaking to him at school, cause that just makes him more attractive. Keep an eye on her Internet time, make sure the computer is not in her bed room but somewhere you can glance at it from time to time while she is on it. At her age, her taste in "men" will change with the wind. Give it time and stay quietly(if possible)observant.

13 year old daughter is dating a creep...help!?

13 you say. She shouldn't be DATING ANYONE at 13 years old. But if you for some strange reason you do not agree with what I am saying then at the very freaking least if they are together it should be at your house where you can watch them. NO MOVIES, NO SHOWS, NOTHING unless it is at your house where you can watch them at least until you are more comfortable with the kid. He may turn out to be a nice kid.

13 year old daughter is dating a creep...help!?

The worst thing you can do is trash talk this boy in front of her. She will rebel and you will drive them together. Instead, let her see him in your home and supervise their time together. Kids this age have a very short attention span--their relationships don't last long. In the meantime, continue to talk to her about the dangers of sex and drugs, and encourage her to get involved in school activities. She'll meet new people, and maybe she'll realize what a loser this guy really is.

13 year old daughter is dating a creep...help!?

I would caution you not to come on too strong; kids at her age tend to take up the whole "It's us against the world" attitude. He does sound like a creep. Ask her what her friends think about him, how he makes her feel. Look specifically for answers to self esteem questions. This guy is a creep now, but he may end up being a batterer. The lack of respect towards women that he showed on his web site is appalling. Check out the FCADV web site: www.fcadv.org It has tons of information.

13 year old daughter is dating a creep...help!?

First of all, you can't avoid a teenager from "hating" thier parents. "Mom and Dad don't know anything, they are stupid, unfair and mean, etc". That's part of the process!

Secondly, you need to remember YOU are the parent! Set your own rules for your family regardless of other people's choices. Some things will not be open for discussion. Set rules that are enforceable: what happens if your daughter goes somewhere against the rules, doesn't call home when she is supposed to, or acts irresponsibly about her friend/boyfriend choices? Decide the rules, state the consequences ahead of time, and always follow through.

Lastly, Personally I think "dating/going out" at 13 is a bit too young. In spite of what your daughter or what her friends may say, very few parents let their 13-year-olds date. Most 13-year-olds don't know how to handle themselves on a date or make conscience decisions. They can't drive, so shouldn't be in cars with kids old enough to drive. It's perfectly all right for you to explain to your daughter why she can't date and that it's basically a safety issue -- emotional and physical safety. You can also set up the conditions and times when you will consider her ready. Emphasize that you trust her to do the right thing and that sneaking around to date breaks that trust.

Good Luck

13 year old daughter is dating a creep...help!?

13 YEAR OLDS SHOULD NOT BE DATING, WHAT EVER THAT MEANS. THE MAY "LIKE" ONE ANOTHER. HANG OUT AT SCHOOL. HARD TO CONTROL THAT. BUT DATING, UNTIL A TIME AND AGE FOR HER YOU AS PARENT ARE COMFORTABLE,SHOULDNT BE CONSIDERED. SHE MAY NOT LIKE THE LIMITS YOU PUT ON HER BUT YOU ARE THE PARENT AND YOUR JUDGEMENT IS MORE THOUGHT OUT THEN HERS AT THIS AGE.

13 year old daughter is dating a creep...help!?

I would consult the internet for parenting advice obviously this doen't come naturally to you. First of all! make sure you know that this kid is really the charles manson prodigy u think he is If there is one thing I've learned its don't pee in the wind no seriously this little boy is also 13 I would imagine. How devilish could he be? a little slack and relaxation may be your best medicine Boys will be boys Parents are so judgemental of other peoples kids because their own are always perfect invite this kid over and do some first hand investigation/ some Future character profiling like a coy parent and adult would. Find out why your daughter likes him In my opinion parenting is convincing your kids of the proper mindset without them knowing that you are parenting at all. "telling them what to do?" I mean do you think that it works. Be her friend not her Oldbag MAH And the Myspace thing.. really think about what the best way to handle that is....ahhh welll I don't know. just don't beat em. And keep on keepin it real internet mom

13 year old daughter is dating a creep...help!?

its her life...

all 13 or 14 year old boys that have myspace have something about sex or drugs.. its just to be cool and stuff ...

they arent serious

they do it because they think its hot or cool or bad ***

but on a different note

its really her life

shell learn from her mistakes

all you can do is explain the consequences

and the risks... aids.drugabuse.pregnancy. etc.

if he was really a creep... shed know it... bc shes with him more than you are

your daughter is just in the badboy phase..everyone likes the badboy once or twice

and jeez its her life

let het live it

13 year old daughter is dating a creep...help!?

well you are the PARENT and you can control whether or not she hangs out with this guy after school---this may not be comforting but a lot of kids in the 6-8 grade are having sex with multiple partners so it is your job as the parent to keep her from this--a girls slumber party is great as long as parents are out but she is far too young to be going out by herself with friends---this is why the multiple partner and sex at extremely early ages happen--and if you want to maintain a relationship with her talk to her about things and let her know she can tell you ANYTHING but be sure to STRESS the point of she is way to young for a serious relationship with anyone in any way and also let her know that some kids may break up with her b/c she will not have sex so -----Its your job do it as best and easy as you can

13 year old daughter is dating a creep...help!?

Make it a rule that any date the two of them have, will be a group date. As in, you and your hubby will be tagging along. She'll think it's a joke at first, but it won't be so funny when they go out again. This will either embarass her out of dating (for now) or she'll hate you. But then again, either way she'll hate you, or so she'll say.

When teenagers say that, they don't really mean it. It's their way of expressing their anger and they'll cool off. Me and my sister never remember to stay angry. We'll try the silent treatment, but we love to talk so much that we forget to keep it up. That's the way it is with girls.

13 year old daughter is dating a creep...help!?

WELL AT 13 YOUR DAUGHTER SHOULD BE THINKING BOUT SCHOOL ADN HOW SHE GONNA FIX HER HAIR NEXT OT BOYS , AS FOR U BREAKING THEM UP WELL GOOD LUCK WHEN I WAS A TEEN MY MOM WOULDNT LIKE A GUY I WOULD GO OUT WITH HIM JUST TO GET BACK AT MY MOM , EVEN THOUGH WE NEVER WENT NO WHERE WE ONLY SEEN EACH OTHER AT SCHOOL MY MOM DIDNT LET ME GO NO WHERE UNLESS MY BROTHERS WERE THERE , IF SHE HATES U OH WELL YOUR SUPPOSE TO BE A PARENT BEFORE U ARE A FRIEND TO YOUR CHILD SHELL GET OVER IT AND SHELL THANK U FOR IT LATTER , AS FOR CONFRONTING THE BOY ABOUT HIS MY SPACE ACCOUNT U SHOULD HAVE TOLD HIS PARENTS BETTER YET SHOWED IT TO HIS PARENTS SO THEY WILL KNOW WHAT THERE CHILD IS UP TO , DONT LET YOUR DAUGHTER GO OUT IWTH THIS GUY ADN IF HE CALLS TELL HIM SHES OUT WITH MIKE JONES OR ANOTHER NAME , AND TELL HIM THAT U WILL GET A RESTRAINING ORDER ON HIM IF HE DONT STOP SEEING HER , IF THERE IN THE SAME CLASSES AT SCHOOL TOGETHER SEE ABOUT GETTING HER CLASSES CHANGED , U NEED TO USE TOUGH LOVE NO MATTER WHAT SO YOUR DAUGHTER DONT FALL INTO THE WROUNG HANDS AND RIGHT NOW THERE AT THE AGE WHERE THEY NO IT ALL AND THERES NOTHING THAT IS GONNA STOP THEM FROM DOING WHAT THEY WANT U JUST NEED TO SHOW HER IF U HAVE TO GROUND HER DO SO IF SHE HAVE CELL PHONE TAKE IT AWAY . NO MATTER WHAT U DO ITS GONNA BE HARD ON YOU AND HER JUST LET HER KNOW HOW U FEEL AND THAT U WANT HER LIFE TO BE BETTERE THAN WHAT IT IS NOW AND U WANT HER TO STAY AWAY FROM PEPOLE THAT DO DRUGS OR ALCHOL FOR HER OWN GOOD

13 year old daughter is dating a creep...help!?

TELL HER im 13.

an my parents wont let me do anythin

NOT EVEN THE MOVIES

parents r unfair anyways just tell her an say u want the best 4 her

13 year old daughter is dating a creep...help!?

Hant him down!!! dont care about what ur daughter thinks.ur the mom.ur the one that took care of her.ur the one that pays the bills!!! until she's 18 your the boss not her and if she gots a problem with it tell her to talk to me im not scared!!! I GOT UR BACK!!!

13 year old daughter is dating a creep...help!?

Tell your daughter that she can't see him anymore. You're the boss!!! Don't let your daughter control you! Sure, you should give her space....but every kid needs guid lines: if they want them or not. Explain to your daughter exactly why the boy is bad news. Do all of this in a kind, gentle manner, and tell her that you are just looing out for her best intrests.

13 year old daughter is dating a creep...help!?

OMG, I am dreading that day with my daughter. I remember "go out" with a boy when I was about 14 and my parents hated the kid. They forbid me to see and I was quite rotten to my parents that they did that. Of course it was years later that I understood why they did what they did.

My point is your daughter is going to rebel no matter what you do. You and your husband know what's in her best interests and you do what you need to do to protect her. You can talk to your blue in the face why she shouldn't be "going out" with any boys at her age but she's not going to understand. I think his parents should know about his inappropriate behaviour on the web and with your daughter. Explain to your daughter that there can be trust and communication as long as she's honest and open with you. She has to earn your trust as a teenager. Parents need to monitor and question their child's behaviour on and off the web, ESPECIALLY now. Children/teens are far more sexually advanced that we ever were at their age. She's going to be angry now but she will thank you when she's older. I'd rather dictate my daughter's life and have her "hate" me then see her go down the wrong road and throw her life away because of a teenage crush. Any of this make sense?

13 year old daughter is dating a creep...help!?

Take it from someone whose had expirence with parents trying to make you do things, even though there good for you. If she's a good kid, it should be fine, just watch her really closely. You don't want her to hate you, and there's really no way to break them up w/o hurting her, and I'm sure that's not what you want. She must really like him if she saw the MySpace and was upset but is still with him. Make sure she's careful. Good Luck! I hope you figure it out!

13 year old daughter is dating a creep...help!?

why do you let a 13 yr old ..date

13 year old daughter is dating a creep...help!?

First off - sorry you are going through this. The teenage years are rough. Second, don't judge him before you get to know him. My 14 year old some has a girlfriend whose parents think he is a punk. I have an honor student who is a good Christian boy. I know you are probably thinking that I am naive. He and I hang out and his friends hang out here with us - I know them and know what they do and don't do. Get to know him and his family. From experience when I was a kid - if you tell her don't date him - he will be the one she wants even more. Third, I am shocked at how many said she should not date yet. I feel like a parent knows when the child is ready for group dates, chaperoned dates, and then alone dates. Pay attention to her and you will know. Fourth, you are the parent. There will be plenty of time you will make her mad and she will think she hates you. She will later realize that you were right and come around. My son has been mad at me before and I am sure he will be again. I allow a lot more than most parents because I know who, where, and what. He has friends here a lot so I can know who he is with. Lastly, trust you raised her right - taught her right from wrong - and pray she makes the right decisions. Be there to pick her up when she falls instead of throwing it back in her face. Then she will listen more next time.

13 year old daughter is dating a creep...help!?

She already hates you....you're her mother! So do the hard thing and make it very difficult for her to keep seeing this guy (please bear in mind that teenage boys are never as nasty as they first appear...they're usually just reacting to massive peer pressure that demands that they act inappropriately in the eyes of authority). Fortunately when she gets to about 19 your daughter will understand that anything you did was only in her best interests. What she will not understand is if you have allowed her to stray down a dangerous path in case you hurt her feelings! You know what you gotts do!